Knowing the Unsolved

Here, just to share with you a passage I have read.

Also, it's another reminder to myself .

In a subtopic of exposing selfishness in a book I am reading, How to Live Without Fear and Worry, I have come across with a paragraph that pause me for a while as I read this several times in order to ponder about this statement.

The words of wisdom are:-

Nothing outside us can possibly affect us as much as what is taking place in our minds. It is an established fact that, " As man thinketh in his heart, so he is."

-K. Sri Dhammananda
( Author of the book)

I am still reading this book as I want to mitigate the fear and worry in me for a lot of things.
I wish I can get solution to deal with these.

Stay tune to my post.

Smiling at your Anger

These days, I found that I am easily stirred up by my delusion and negative emotions that took my rational away.

Luckily, I have come across a handbook namely, Present Moment Wonderful Moment by Venerable Thay. This book has taught me how to be mindful in dealing with daily tasks.

I would like to extract one passage from this book as to remind myself to control my own anger and be calm and steady in order to work on every things I am accountable for.

The wisdom of words are:-

45. Smiling At Your Anger

Breathing in, I know that anger makes me ugly.
Breathing out, I do not want to be contorted by anger.

Breathing in, I know I must take care of myself.
Breathing out, I know loving kindness is the only answer.

To explain this, the author has given a scenario as an example.

When you are angry, it is like a house burning. When we know that our house is burning, we must first put out the fire instead. Searching the person who starts on the fire and then throw the blame on him/her would not do any help.

Therefore, when we are angry, we should first control this emotion and be calm by mindfully breath-in and breath-out meditation.

You can also count: 1,2,3,4,5,6,7,8,9,10 to hold on.

Or recite your God's name.

Forget about why you are angry. When you feel better that time, then, you should find the solution. Angry would not harm others but only you yourself.

Also, be compassion. Forgive the person who irritates you. You should find the cause(s) why the person do so. Maybe he/she does not mean to hurt you due to ineffable difficulties. Or maybe you are just being sensitive.

So ladies and gentlemen,

Control your anger before it controls you.

向运动选手致敬

这几天，常在家里观看2010亚洲比赛。

我深深体会到所谓的“台上三分钟，台下十年功”。

看到运动员非凡的表现， 尤其是体操，真令人赞叹不已。

看到他们那胜利表情， 我可体会得到， 他们感到欣慰，因为历年来的付出总算没白费， 辛苦为了光宗耀祖是值得的。

但，那些输了比赛的选手， 失落的表情很明显的浮现在脸上。

他们背负着国家与国人的期望，却令他们失望了。

对我来说，只要有体育精神的运动健将，有努力的，已是很棒的了。

因为他们都尽力了，他们能做到别人不可能的事，他们为了比赛付出了宝贵的时间与精力。

我很感激他们给我的讯息：

• 失败乃是成功之母，不要放弃，只要有尽力而为，你已经赢了。
• 凡是比赛或任何事，都要有定和平静， 事情必定事半功倍。

在这我要特别为我国马来西亚运动员打气，希望他们再接再厉，不负大众所望。加油！

Compliments to My Dad

My dad is both a bread-winner of the family and house-maker (House-maker > sometimes "lar" haha).

Every weekdays morning, he has to wake up at 5pm to prepare breakfast and then wake me and my sister up.

At 6.30 am, he starts driving :-

1st destination >>
To drop my sis at SMK Dato'Lokman ( it's also my former secondary school)

2nd destination >>
To drop me at UCTI at Bukit Jalil ( currently where I am studying)

3rd destination >>
His workplace- Affin Bank at Jalan Chulan.

Then, he starts his job.

At 5.45 am he finishes his work.
[Sometimes later than that due to OT without pay.]
He will then come home. Usually he will wait for me at Setiawangsa LRT station to fetch me after my studies as I travel by LRT .

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Weekends...
especially on Sunday

He will cook dinner for us.

But we have to do the washing...TT ( I am too pampered )

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I am very thankful to have my dad as my father. Although sometimes, his "Virgo sign Horoscope" - perfectionist behavior annoys me as he wants thing to do according his standard. For instance when you hang the clothes, different hanger is for different clothes; you have wrap the curtain his way.. etc... ( hmm... I am not criticizing him, these are facts.)

Nevertheless, I am proud to be your daughter. I wish I can repay your kindness as you have sacrificed a lot for the family.

I would not let you down dad. You will be proud of me someday.

Test

I felt disappointed on the Quantitative Skill (QSS) test yesterday.

I made silly mistake (I hope it is only one silly mistake) as I have loss 11 marks.

Heart-broken.

Until today, I still feel the "pain" of this.

But this is bygones, I cannot rope the teacher's test paper as this is a serious academic offense and this would be mission impossible.

So, all I need to do is to pray and prepare for the examination on December.

Lesson learnt-

• Be careful and focus in doing questions.
• Do sufficient revision to accelerate my speed of doing questions so that I would have more time to check the answers.
• Always revise after the lecture and it must within 24 hours, no excuse anymore!

I hope I can score flying colors in this coming exam. God Bless ME.

Happy Mid-Autumn Festival @ Mooncake Festival!

Today is one of the celebrations for Chinese culture i.e Mid-autumn festival. In some families, it would be a gathering time for all members of the family; some will have prayer to the moon to pray for the goddess to fulfill certain wishes, etc.

Thanks to moon cakes advertisement from different bakeries, it reminds people about this celebration, if not it would be forgotten by many people especially the Generation y though the main purpose is to advertise the particular organization's product in order to bring profit to the company.

I am very thankful that I came from a quite traditional family. My family still hold on the tradition to celebrate this big day. Grandma and aunt have spent a few days to prepare a big feast for us (around 40 people) today.

Special compliment to them- grandma and aunt, for continuing the tradition. Besides, with this opportunity we can meet with other relatives which seldom in contact. This actually binds our relationships more closely.

I love Mid-autumn festival. It reminds me about my childhood time. Me, my sisters and fellow cousins were the happiest persons when this day came. After, we, the kids had our delicious dinner, we then played lantern until it is burnt ; played candles and made it an astonish view to behold with many lighted candles; we played games (e.g cat and mouse),etc. Those were memorable experience I can recalled during my childhood period. This year, we had mouth-watering dishes however we did not played games as we had before.

Maybe our batch has grown up, we 'tend to become matured and don't play children games anymore",whereas another batch of cousins are just babies. I need to wait for them to grow up, then I will join their "gang" to play games though I am older than them around 20 years.

I wonder,would the younger generation (which I am one of them) continue this family tradition ?
Anyhow, I wish my family members would be good to each other and continue this tradition.
Happy Mid-Autumn Festival. :)
And don't forget to watch your weight as you would have eaten much moon cakes that are fattening. Haha!

Happy Malaysia Day!

This is the 47th anniversary for formation of Malaysia since 1963 where prior to this was Federation of Malaya. And, after many years of this historical event, this is the first year where all states in Malaysia have an official public holiday on 16 September.

I am neither born before Independence nor Formation of Malaysia,of course, I do not denial I have weak patriotism towards my home country as I do not really into the real meaning of these special occasions (except it is holiday!). Since there are many ugly sides in terms of it politic, economic and social condition as exposed by the media (or even hidden stories) , these has actually taken much sense of belonging here.

However, I have heard a quote somewhere which is quite meaningful;
" Don't hope what the country can do for you; but, what you can do for the country?"

Right, we may be not satisfied with many things here, nevertheless, we were all grown up here, we do get some sort of benefits here like education; free medication for those senior citizens at government hospital; etc. Looking on the bright side, there is no war here; we can still do well if we work hard, this country is not as bad as other countries.

We need to accept the fact that there is no perfect country on planet earth actually. Anywhere has the same scenario but different in its level of seriousness.

I sincerely wish that "one Malaysia" concept will stay and really can be achieved. But not a temporarily slogan to promote unity and then forgotten by people.

All the best to my home country. Happy Malaysia Day!